"When you
plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you don't blame the lettuce.
You look for reasons it is not doing well. It may need fertilizer, or
more water, or less sun. You never blame the lettuce. Yet if we have
problems with our friends or our family, we blame the other person. But
if we know how to take care of them, they will grow well, like the
lettuce. Blaming has no positive effect at all, nor does trying to
persuade using reason and argument. That is my experience. If you
understand, and you show that you understand, you can love, and the
situation will change."
Thich Nhat Hanh,
Peace
is Every Step: The Path of Mindfulness in Everyday Life
